Sometimes, we find ourselves in uncomfortable spaces & don't always have the best tools to help.
Let's be honest, meditating won't be useful in environments like car rides, elevators, shared households, & even conversations.
What are you just going to start bending down towards the floor & start humming mid-conversation?
Let's be clear to ourselves as people, the tools we have at our disposal to guide our next behavior may not be useful. This often depends on present circumstances.
In short, wrong place & wrong time.
In Our last few articles, we went over things like focused breathing, exercise, & meditation as tools to help cope with stress. However, these aren't always convenient tools to rely on when we are dealing with stress.
Focused breathing may be the most doable in any environment, especially when you're alone & can go at your pace. Even when we're encountering people, we can rightfully take deep breaths it help us be more at ease.
Exercise is an activity we have to remain focused in order to attain the full physiological benefit & to not get hurt.
Meditating in places where it would be difficult to remain still & concentrated is not ideal while in motion or nosier environments.
An alternative method managing stress could be looking to trustworthy people for consoling & heartening support.
Before we get deeper, it's important to note we don't want to be overly reliant on others to constantly help us. There could be times when they aren't available, ethical considerations, or when others feel we are attached to their hips.
Instead we want to highlight how having an opportunity to connect with someone to deliver needed support can make a big deal.
Often we fear what others think of us, because of the feelings of shame towards our vulnerabilities & differences.
I would argue, that people often assume what others would think of them & how the relationship will turn out afterwards. But to live in this fear of an imagined outcome, clouds our judgement what's best for us.
There's plenty of further discussion about acceptance/self-acceptance, because talking to people is so important to our well-being!
Whether it's a group of friends that know us personally enough to reciprocate help to.
Family members whose seen us at our best & worst.
Reliable professionals we go to for therapy, doctor visits, physical therapy, & especially for taking care of our teeth!
Or even a call or text hotline to handle moments that are starting to feel like crises.
There could be times when we act more emotional than usual, whereas others are more logically sound.
This would be useful when we're feeling angry, but we end up talking to that one friend who somehow brightens our day up with laughter, joy, or even relief. People whom we deeply know & trust would not be as susceptible to our own blind spots.
Sometimes what yields huge benefit if it's the people we have closet to us allowing us to vent when needed.
We've all encountered some kind of personal stress that we know specific people can handle better than we can.
From personal experience, as a current graduate student it feels difficult to manage a work/life balance between working a day job & an online business. I often ask myself how will I get through the next day's volume of work.
If I ever feel like I'm at a low even when meditation is just not enough, I call my mom from Florida & share what's been going on. I find myself talking about what's been bugging me & to know she's listening gives me a lot of relief.
This is my "break glass for emergencies" method when I have a lot on my mind & not sure what to do with it. But talking it out & hearing my thoughts out loud made me rethink about what's been bugging me.
This kind of personal discovery can lead to cognitive consonance, where my behaviors can start to match my thoughts. Thoughts that might've been incorrect (like assumptions) start to enhance my clarity on stressors in order to better deal with them. Our entitlement to feeling anger or another emotion can dissipate once cognitive peace is achieved.
My personal anecdote is one example of talking to the right person at the right time. This method is not generalizable & everybody's relationship would differ in context & characteristics.
We end up making better decisions when we hear what someone we trust has to say.
I really enjoyed writing this post & hope you can visual a strategy like this to use!
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